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Post by The Perilous Dreamer on Jan 27, 2023 22:13:08 GMT -5
How is everybody doing? Everybody that is on check in and let us know.
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Post by The Perilous Dreamer on Jan 27, 2023 23:42:08 GMT -5
Tomorrow is 1/28/2023 and four years ago on the 28th, my wife passed away. It has been a long four years and by orders of magnitude the worst thing that ever happened to me. It has been a tough slog and I have to just keep going. I've had cancer three times and a heart attack and all of those things combined pale to insignificance compared to losing my wife. We get a slight break in the weather tomorrow and I am going to try to get out for a good long walk. We always loved walking together.
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Post by The Semi-Retired Gamer on Jan 28, 2023 12:09:09 GMT -5
How is everybody doing? Everybody that is on check in and let us know. Doing GREAT! My son continues to maintain awesome control of his diabetic condition. He has been officially off the insulin for a bit now and only takes a pill. His blood sugar is consistently between 90 and 108. You can't get any better than that. I'm enjoying my new position at work. I'm off the production line and it's dealing with government inspectors directly about our school buses. I get to see results (successful inspections) immediately rather than wonder about it if an operator gives a crap about the quality of the product they're putting out. It actually feels rewarding to be in this spot. |
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Post by The Semi-Retired Gamer on Jan 28, 2023 12:11:55 GMT -5
Tomorrow is 1/28/2023 and four years ago on the 28th, my wife passed away. It has been a long four years and by orders of magnitude the worst thing that ever happened to me. It has been a tough slog and I have to just keep going. I've had cancer three times and a heart attack and all of those things combined pale to insignificance compared to losing my wife. We get a slight break in the weather tomorrow and I am going to try to get out for a good long walk. We always loved walking together. I can't imagine the loss you've been through, The Perilous Dreamer. I'm sure it's challenging. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I think a good long walk is a fantastic idea. I might do that as well. I'm not far from the local lake and the scenery would be nice to look at while I'm walking. |
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Post by restless on Feb 24, 2023 14:58:09 GMT -5
That is an awesome image restless , did you ever do the stats? No, I never did. I put gaming aside because of a really big personal issue that came up in my life that is all-consuming for quite a while. I also lost my oldest friend over it, who was also someone I was expecting at my gaming table along with his daughter and a friend of his, so I figured that's three lost players there, so... gaming just lost its lustre. I actually only showed up here 'cause I was tagged. |
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Post by Morose on Feb 24, 2023 17:05:10 GMT -5
That is an awesome image restless , did you ever do the stats? No, I never did. I put gaming aside because of a really big personal issue that came up in my life that is all-consuming for quite a while. I also lost my oldest friend over it, who was also someone I was expecting at my gaming table along with his daughter and a friend of his, so I figured that's three lost players there, so... gaming just lost its lustre. I actually only showed up here 'cause I was tagged. Wow, I'm really sorry to hear that, that really sucks, no wonder you stopped gaming. |
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Post by restless on Feb 24, 2023 18:00:39 GMT -5
Wow, I'm really sorry to hear that, that really sucks, no wonder you stopped gaming. Yes, it does. But honestly, I'm probably better off without him if he feels the way he does. |
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Post by Morose on Feb 24, 2023 19:56:12 GMT -5
Wow, I'm really sorry to hear that, that really sucks, no wonder you stopped gaming. Yes, it does. But honestly, I'm probably better off without him if he feels the way he does. When I was a boy it seemed like the norm for male friendships was lifelong, but that seems to be about a 50/50 shot these days. |
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Post by restless on Feb 24, 2023 22:08:32 GMT -5
When I was a boy it seemed like the norm for male friendships was lifelong, but that seems to be about a 50/50 shot these days. Well, to be honest, I told him I was adjusting the parameter a bit from his standpoint, but nothing objectively changes for him other than his viewpoint now thanks to his politics and prejudice. |
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Post by The Semi-Retired Gamer on Feb 25, 2023 2:51:18 GMT -5
That is an awesome image restless , did you ever do the stats? No, I never did. I put gaming aside because of a really big personal issue that came up in my life that is all-consuming for quite a while. I also lost my oldest friend over it, who was also someone I was expecting at my gaming table along with his daughter and a friend of his, so I figured that's three lost players there, so... gaming just lost its lustre. I actually only showed up here 'cause I was tagged. Oh wow! Sorry to hear that. |
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Post by mao on Feb 25, 2023 10:01:03 GMT -5
We(and I include myself) can derail a thread like nobody else.
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Post by restless on Feb 25, 2023 11:43:54 GMT -5
We(and I include myself) can derail a thread like nobody else. It's a talent! I guess what I am unartfully trying to say is that I came out to my friend as transgender at the ripe age of 52, which should have come as no genuine shock to anyone who knows me (I don't think it did to my wife). I've always kind of known but never really knew until a few months ago. Of course, to him it makes me a weird child sexual predator bugaboo, never mind everything else that came before. Okay, so be it. I am still me, I'll just be different on the outside, but he won't see that. Oh, and I'll be happy and whole for a change. Sadly, I know the OSR is full of that sort of thing, so I am afraid it sort of puts an end to gaming for me since I don't like newer editions and that really breaks my heart. Maybe I can spend time going back and playing classic computer games I never got to play? I don't know. |
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Post by mao on Feb 25, 2023 11:55:07 GMT -5
restless I am dying to get a PbP game going if you are interested. I have been wanting to run a game for one player. My basic idea is for one player to play a version of Conan , Merlin or King Arthur
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Post by The Perilous Dreamer on Feb 25, 2023 17:23:36 GMT -5
We(and I include myself) can derail a thread like nobody else. It's a talent! I guess what I am unartfully trying to say is that I came out to my friend as transgender at the ripe age of 52, which should have come as no genuine shock to anyone who knows me (I don't think it did to my wife). I've always kind of known but never really knew until a few months ago. Of course, to him it makes me a weird child sexual predator bugaboo, never mind everything else that came before. Okay, so be it. I am still me, I'll just be different on the outside, but he won't see that. Oh, and I'll be happy and whole for a change. Sadly, I know the OSR is full of that sort of thing, so I am afraid it sort of puts an end to gaming for me since I don't like newer editions and that really breaks my heart. Maybe I can spend time going back and playing classic computer games I never got to play? I don't know. I can see how that complicates your life with a lot of people. Sadly people like to make broad categorizations rather than look at individuals. If we assumed everyone was a predator because of X, we would have to lot 90% of the planet up. But this place is not the OSR. We are just Old School Gaming. We strive here to not be part of the drama that permeates so much of the so-called OSR. You are welcome here, you have a lot of good gaming ideas which is what we are about. Each of us make our own choices in life and as long as we are not forcing others to change their choices to conform with ours there should not be an issue. Here online, we don't know you well enough to be shocked or not shocked, but I am glad you trust us enough to let us know who you are. What I am going to do is ask the Admin Pete to move several of these posts to the thread we have for real life stuff here. That thread I am moving these posts have almost 900 posts and is a good place for this string of posts to be. BTW you can always start your own play by post here. I am really sorry you lost your friend over this. |
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Post by restless on Feb 25, 2023 17:37:40 GMT -5
I can see how that complicates your life with a lot of people. Sadly people like to make broad categorizations rather than look at individuals. If we assumed everyone was a predator because of X, we would have to lot 90% of the planet up. But this place is not the OSR. We are just Old School Gaming. We strive here to not be part of the drama that permeates so much of the so-called OSR. You are welcome here, you have a lot of good gaming ideas which is what we are about. Each of us make our own choices in life and as long as we are not forcing others to change their choices to conform with ours there should not be an issue. Here online, we don't know you well enough to be shocked or not shocked, but I am glad you trust us enough to let us know who you are. What I am going to do is ask the Admin Pete to move several of these posts to the thread we have for real life stuff here. That thread I am moving these posts have almost 900 posts and is a good place for this string of posts to be. BTW you can always start your own play by post here. I am really sorry you lost your friend over this. I will think about it; we leave tomorrow morning for a trip to the Dominican Republic with my cousin and her husband for some much-needed R&R (before customs starts looking at me and my passport and going... um... is this really you?  ). Life is pretty full-up right now between work, therapy to unravel all this, supporting my wife (it's a big transition (pun intended) for her, too) and I have a whole slew of appointments and a business trip coming up in April, to boot. Yes, I get what you mean about moving the thread, though. I guess I were transforming into a dungeon murder chicken, that would be something altogether different :^) |
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Post by The Perilous Dreamer on Feb 25, 2023 17:43:31 GMT -5
I can see how that complicates your life with a lot of people. Sadly people like to make broad categorizations rather than look at individuals. If we assumed everyone was a predator because of X, we would have to lot 90% of the planet up. But this place is not the OSR. We are just Old School Gaming. We strive here to not be part of the drama that permeates so much of the so-called OSR. You are welcome here, you have a lot of good gaming ideas which is what we are about. Each of us make our own choices in life and as long as we are not forcing others to change their choices to conform with ours there should not be an issue. Here online, we don't know you well enough to be shocked or not shocked, but I am glad you trust us enough to let us know who you are. What I am going to do is ask the Admin Pete to move several of these posts to the thread we have for real life stuff here. That thread I am moving these posts have almost 900 posts and is a good place for this string of posts to be. BTW you can always start your own play by post here. I am really sorry you lost your friend over this. I will think about it; we leave tomorrow morning for a trip to the Dominican Republic with my cousin and her husband for some much-needed R&R (before customs starts looking at me and my passport and going... um... is this really you? ). Life is pretty full-up right now between work, therapy to unravel all this, supporting my wife (it's a big transition (pun intended) for her, too) and I have a whole slew of appointments and a business trip coming up in April, to boot. Yes, I get what you mean about moving the thread, though. I guess I were transforming into a dungeon murder chicken, that would be something altogether different :^) Well have fun on your vacation and glad to hear you are getting therapy. I will pray for you and your wife. I saw the pun, keeping your sense of humor is a good thing. |
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Post by The Perilous Dreamer on Feb 25, 2023 17:44:26 GMT -5
Yes, I get what you mean about moving the thread, though. I guess I were transforming into a dungeon murder chicken, that would be something altogether different :^) stats please! |
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Post by mao on Feb 26, 2023 10:46:28 GMT -5
Dungeon Murder Chicken
AC: 9
HD: 0ne Hit Point
Fighting Capability:10 HD
Damage: 3D6
Initiative: Always counts as rolling a 1.
Special: The Dungeon Murder Chicken will rise like a phoenix when it is slain in combat. Upon doing so, their damage potential is decreased. For example, first death it is decreased to 2D6, then 1D6 upon second death, and the chicken is finally slain on the next death.
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Post by The Semi-Retired Gamer on Feb 26, 2023 11:41:54 GMT -5
Yes, it does. But honestly, I'm probably better off without him if he feels the way he does. Yeah...it's really taken a heavy hit. I'm sure there are many factors BUT those good old days are OVER. |
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Post by mao on Feb 26, 2023 11:44:59 GMT -5
When I was a boy it seemed like the norm for male friendships was lifelong, but that seems to be about a 50/50 shot these days. Yeah...it's really taken a heavy hit. I'm sure there are many factors BUT those good old days are OVER. I am lucky I've got male friends from 1976,1982 and 1985 |
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Post by Morose on Feb 26, 2023 14:46:51 GMT -5
When I was a boy it seemed like the norm for male friendships was lifelong, but that seems to be about a 50/50 shot these days. Yeah...it's really taken a heavy hit. I'm sure there are many factors BUT those good old days are OVER. There are a few of us on here who have never had a friend out in the real world. When I was a boy, I saw it all around me, but I was never part of it. Now it seems that for young men, instead of being an outlier like I was, a lot of young men are in that boat, so I guess I was just born before my time. |
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Post by simrion on Feb 26, 2023 14:59:11 GMT -5
We(and I include myself) can derail a thread like nobody else. It's a talent! I guess what I am unartfully trying to say is that I came out to my friend as transgender at the ripe age of 52, which should have come as no genuine shock to anyone who knows me (I don't think it did to my wife). I've always kind of known but never really knew until a few months ago. Of course, to him it makes me a weird child sexual predator bugaboo, never mind everything else that came before. Okay, so be it. I am still me, I'll just be different on the outside, but he won't see that. Oh, and I'll be happy and whole for a change. Sadly, I know the OSR is full of that sort of thing, so I am afraid it sort of puts an end to gaming for me since I don't like newer editions and that really breaks my heart. Maybe I can spend time going back and playing classic computer games I never got to play? I don't know. Well that is truly unfortunate. I'd question just how good a friend he is/was, but that's me. I'm fortunate to have a fair number of male and female friends and, though I tend towards being a conservative libertarian, many of my friends are of various other political and social persuasions. I value each and everyone for their differences and quite frankly value their differences. I'm not however a fan of the "in your face" activity of the real extreme or outliers of any particular belief system or persuasion. You want to be you fine, go ahead. Do I really need to know beyond the basic acknowledgement? Not really. |
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Post by The Semi-Retired Gamer on Feb 26, 2023 16:32:24 GMT -5
Yeah...it's really taken a heavy hit. I'm sure there are many factors BUT those good old days are OVER. There are a few of us on here who have never had a friend out in the real world. When I was a boy, I saw it all around me, but I was never part of it. Now it seems that for young men, instead of being an outlier like I was, a lot of young men are in that boat, so I guess I was just born before my time. I had several good friends when I was growing up. We used to have adventures outside on our bikes, exploring the woods, playing football, riding motorcycles, etc. We also spent time inside together playing D&D, video games, board games, watching movies, etc. Several of us worked summer jobs together as well. I say all that to say that times have definitely changed. I don't see young men doing these sorts of activities and bonding like they once did in the past. That would often carry on into adulthood. Obviously, that's where those long-lasting friends would come from. I am still friendly with some of the friends from my childhood, but I don't really hang out or do things with anyone from back then. There are two that are rare exceptions. One old friend joined the Army when I did. We run into each other occasionally and will spend several minutes talking in the store. Another old friend has been one that has helped me, and I have helped him several times; plus, we've ate at Waffle House a few times, borrowed movies back and forth, etc. I don't think the answer is as simple as "men have changed" as to why things are different now. Changes in responsibility and commitments happen. If you take that as inevitable, then what's left? There are many other factors that have contributed to this state of affairs. I would elaborate BUT there are many sensitive areas such as politics, gender roles, societal expectations, etc. that I don't want to clutter up this forum with and I would most likely wind up needing to use my mod powers on myself and take a 3-day ban or something.  I'll just say that MANY THINGS have changed. |
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Post by Crimhthan The Great on Feb 26, 2023 17:32:35 GMT -5
We(and I include myself) can derail a thread like nobody else. It's a talent! I guess what I am unartfully trying to say is that I came out to my friend as transgender at the ripe age of 52, which should have come as no genuine shock to anyone who knows me (I don't think it did to my wife). I've always kind of known but never really knew until a few months ago. Of course, to him it makes me a weird child sexual predator bugaboo, never mind everything else that came before. Okay, so be it. I am still me, I'll just be different on the outside, but he won't see that. Oh, and I'll be happy and whole for a change. Sadly, I know the OSR is full of that sort of thing, so I am afraid it sort of puts an end to gaming for me since I don't like newer editions and that really breaks my heart. Maybe I can spend time going back and playing classic computer games I never got to play? I don't know. I'm 85, I think this is all nuts, but you're not hurting anyone, so it's your business. I wouldn't kick an old friend out of my game nor end the friendship. I would set down with him and try to figure out where all this is coming from, but you don't turn on a friend unless they have actually done something heinous to someone else that did not have it coming. |
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Post by The Semi-Retired Gamer on Feb 26, 2023 17:47:22 GMT -5
We(and I include myself) can derail a thread like nobody else. It's a talent! I guess what I am unartfully trying to say is that I came out to my friend as transgender at the ripe age of 52, which should have come as no genuine shock to anyone who knows me (I don't think it did to my wife). I've always kind of known but never really knew until a few months ago. Of course, to him it makes me a weird child sexual predator bugaboo, never mind everything else that came before. Okay, so be it. I am still me, I'll just be different on the outside, but he won't see that. Oh, and I'll be happy and whole for a change. Sadly, I know the OSR is full of that sort of thing, so I am afraid it sort of puts an end to gaming for me since I don't like newer editions and that really breaks my heart. Maybe I can spend time going back and playing classic computer games I never got to play? I don't know. you are welcome here so don't sweat it. We may be Old School gamers but that's it. There's no ill will towards you at all. You do you and to hell with them if they have ignorant things to say. Any particular classic computer games you plan on playing? I have Ultima 1-9 and I'm really thinking about playing through all of them back-to-back in the near futurre. |
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Post by The Semi-Retired Gamer on Feb 26, 2023 17:49:40 GMT -5
Yeah...it's really taken a heavy hit. I'm sure there are many factors BUT those good old days are OVER. When I was a boy, I saw it all around me, but I was never part of it. Now it seems that for young men, instead of being an outlier like I was, a lot of young men are in that boat, so I guess I was just born before my time. I forgot to put it in my original reply but that's why I come here so much. It feels like I have friends here and we would be friends in the real world as well. |
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Post by restless on Feb 26, 2023 18:59:58 GMT -5
I'm 85, I think this is all nuts, but you're not hurting anyone, so it's your business. I wouldn't kick an old friend out of my game nor end the friendship. I would set down with him and try to figure out where all this is coming from, but you don't turn on a friend unless they have actually done something heinous to someone else that did not have it coming. I didn't kick anyone out of anything. I was told I wasn't welcome around him and his family anymore. |
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Post by Crimhthan The Great on Feb 26, 2023 19:54:35 GMT -5
I'm 85, I think this is all nuts, but you're not hurting anyone, so it's your business. I wouldn't kick an old friend out of my game nor end the friendship. I would set down with him and try to figure out where all this is coming from, but you don't turn on a friend unless they have actually done something heinous to someone else that did not have it coming. I didn't kick anyone out of anything. I was told I wasn't welcome around him and his family anymore. I was referring to what he did, he ended the friendship. I was saying I would not do what he did. |
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Post by Morose on Feb 27, 2023 1:59:32 GMT -5
There are a few of us on here who have never had a friend out in the real world. When I was a boy, I saw it all around me, but I was never part of it. Now it seems that for young men, instead of being an outlier like I was, a lot of young men are in that boat, so I guess I was just born before my time. I forgot to put it in my original reply but that's why I come here so much. It feels like I have friends here and we would be friends in the real world as well. After all these years as an old man, I don't know what that would be like. I am used to just being tolerated on the good days. |
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Post by simrion on Feb 27, 2023 5:48:46 GMT -5
There are a few of us on here who have never had a friend out in the real world. When I was a boy, I saw it all around me, but I was never part of it. Now it seems that for young men, instead of being an outlier like I was, a lot of young men are in that boat, so I guess I was just born before my time. I forgot to put it in my original reply but that's why I come here so much. It feels like I have friends here and we would be friends in the real world as well. SRG have an Exalt for your comment, I agree! Glad I've found this forum of creative and welcoming fellow gamers! |
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I'll just say that MANY THINGS have changed.