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Post by Admin Pete on May 1, 2018 22:27:35 GMT -5
While I am glad to see this thread being used, I am sad that it is needed. My best and prayers to all with difficulties in their lives or the lives of their loved ones.
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Post by captaincrumbcake on May 1, 2018 23:25:07 GMT -5
Always saddens me when I hear these things. No one is immune to loss. It happens, and we all--eventually/somehow--figure out how to deal with it and carry on. It always reminds me of the George Harrison song, All Things Must Pass. My condolences to all experiencing something right now. How are you doing captaincrumbcake ? I have been reading the forum and it seems you have your health challenges as well. I count myself lucky. I'm just falling apart from age...slowly. Nothing specific, nor life threatening at the moment. Unless you consider spending 8 hours a day keeping up with the grandsons a threat--which sometimes it feels like. But thanks for inquiring. |
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Post by mormonyoyoman on May 2, 2018 4:17:58 GMT -5
Aye, Raven. As my best buddy in 1972 (a psych major then, a semi-retired shrink now) told me then, role playing can reduce frustrations and build empathy; likewise heroic fiction can inspire us to push on. Neither of us dreamed there were imagineers smershing the two concepts and calling it a game.
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Post by Jakob Grimm on May 2, 2018 9:44:37 GMT -5
Keep on keeping on guys, we are all climbing the mountain together and we take turns helping each other do it.
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Post by True Black Raven on May 2, 2018 20:09:19 GMT -5
How are you doing captaincrumbcake ? I have been reading the forum and it seems you have your health challenges as well. I count myself lucky. I'm just falling apart from age...slowly. Nothing specific, nor life threatening at the moment. Unless you consider spending 8 hours a day keeping up with the grandsons a threat--which sometimes it feels like. But thanks for inquiring. You sound like a very lucky man to me! Enjoy the grandsons and give them great memories! |
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Post by True Black Raven on May 2, 2018 20:10:15 GMT -5
Aye, Raven. As my best buddy in 1972 (a psych major then, a semi-retired shrink now) told me then, role playing can reduce frustrations and build empathy; likewise heroic fiction can inspire us to push on. Neither of us dreamed there were imagineers smershing the two concepts and calling it a game. Aren't we glad they did though! |
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Post by Hexenritter Verlag on May 6, 2018 22:41:31 GMT -5
How are you doing hengest ? Hope that you are doing better and just wanted to remind you that we are here for you! Thanks a lot, TBR. I can't lie on here, I'm not doing well at all and I can't find any way of improving things. But I appreciate your checking on me. , I've been struggling with depression as is a dear friend of mine. It has been effecting my revisions on my home setting but this community is such a boon & i am glad that you are part of it. We are in your corner. I hope that you feel better soon & can contribute again soon. |
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Post by Admin Pete on May 7, 2018 7:45:57 GMT -5
For anyone dealing with depression, you have my deepest sympathy and concern. I spent the years from early grade school until about the age of 30 very deeply depressed and have had many bouts of depression since that time. The difference is that I have had a great deal of support since about the age of 30. As you can imagine the health challenges that bout my wife and myself are facing are deeply depressing, but we have a lot of support and assistance to help us work through it and not let it overwhelm us. We are maintaining a positivity that I would never have imagined possible when I was in my teens and 20's. All of that we credit to our relationship with God and with the people that he has put into our lives. All of you are one of those beacons and are as much of a support group in many ways as the cancer support groups. If you need help, please get it and please share here. The more than you are open about it the more you will find support for it.
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Post by hengest on May 7, 2018 12:49:55 GMT -5
In case it's worth anything to anyone else:
I have seen psychiatrists, psychologists, and LCSWs. Some very professional, some not so. Like in any profession. I am seeing someone now who is extremely professional (but not cold) and who may be able to help me some. Never thought I would say that.
Even if it seems hopeless and you have really great reasons for thinking so, it is worth seeking help.
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Post by Hexenritter Verlag on May 7, 2018 14:19:15 GMT -5
In case it's worth anything to anyone else: I have seen psychiatrists, psychologists, and LCSWs. Some very professional, some not so. Like in any profession. I am seeing someone now who is extremely professional (but not cold) and who may be able to help me some. Never thought I would say that. Even if it seems hopeless and you have really great reasons for thinking so, it is worth seeking help. The doctors I've had in the past were very clinical - but I was also dealing with a ton of self-loathing caused from traumas as a teen and dealing with my mom's issues. I wasn't willing to talk about because shame and fear. But as an adult I am dealing with it better but it still rears up its ugly head. Like Admin Pete I suffered a lot through my teens and early twenties depression-wise, with occasional bouts hitting me hard since. About 5 or so years ago I started having bouts of serious anxiety attacks that weirdly began again about the time my brother started having them. Luckily I haven't had a serious bout in over a year or two. I agree on people seeking qualified help. |
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Post by simrion on May 10, 2018 18:55:46 GMT -5
Sharing for the levity. A few weeks back my DR. told me I should consult with insurance to see if they'd cover shingles vaccination for me as I'm 50 and a type 2 diabetic. I'm like yeah, okay. Of course she jinxed me, last week I developed shingles. Called her out on the jinx too!
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Post by mormonyoyoman on May 11, 2018 1:27:40 GMT -5
We *are* a wreck of a group, aren't we?
Still, I maintain faith that the adventure is worth all the opposition. What hero of what adventure isn't opposed by mighty forces? Ours are a little different, and we fight them differently. Fight on!
If we haven't learned these things from rolegaming, then the BADD loonies were correct and we are messed up.
Life is an adventure.
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Post by Crimhthan The Great on May 11, 2018 7:58:20 GMT -5
Sharing for the levity. A few weeks back my DR. told me I should consult with insurance to see if they'd cover shingles vaccination for me as I'm 50 and a type 2 diabetic. I'm like yeah, okay. Of course she jinxed me, last week I developed shingles. Called her out on the jinx too! As well you should. Vaccinations and all medicines should be free, after all methadone is free. |
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Post by True Black Raven on May 12, 2018 9:57:22 GMT -5
We *are* a wreck of a group, aren't we? Still, I maintain faith that the adventure is worth all the opposition. What hero of what adventure isn't opposed by mighty forces? Ours are a little different, and we fight them differently. Fight on! If we haven't learned these things from rolegaming, then the BADD loonies were correct and we are messed up. Life is an adventure. Oh, we are messed up alright, just not the way the BADD loonies think we are AND like they're not messed up! Yeah, I game with heroes not villains. |
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Post by Mighty Darci on May 14, 2018 20:36:53 GMT -5
My best wishes to all of you with tough times.
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Post by Hexenritter Verlag on May 17, 2018 11:17:31 GMT -5
Well my day started out crappy with an emotional gut punch - the friend I've been worried about is still struggling but has been in contact. She like I have recently been talking to Evangelists, it prompted her to reevaluate her faith & she expressed a serious desire to have a spiritual home life. Which I am supportive of 100%. As I've said we've known each other for nearly a decade & cared for each other a lot. We've dated others during this time but figured since she was looking to move out here maybe we'd make a go at it.
So when the religious thing came up I was open to it. In fact I discussed how I'd be willing to do so as I've been drifting back towards God (yeah my user name has become very ironic)myself. That said, she contacted me today & basically said sorry no thanks. I understand & support her choice, it will not effect my feelings for her nor my desire to be friends with her. That said it was a crushing blow. It hit me harder than I thought it would.
I could go back & beg her to ignore what I wrote her & tell her I'll follow her spiritual lead but I'd be untrue to myself and how I'd want to not only express my spirituality but raise any children I may yet be blessed with. I do worry that though she said, this will not lead her to abandon our friendship & I concur - that history being what it is between us, that she'll use it as an excuse to distance herself even more from me. That said, I knew this was a potentiality, so even though I am deeply saddened over it - I won't let this crush my spirit. But darn, does it hurt right now. This is not how I wanted to start my day.
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Post by hengest on May 17, 2018 12:34:32 GMT -5
Well my day started out crappy with an emotional gut punch - the friend I've been worried about is still struggling but has been in contact. She like I have recently been talking to Evangelists, it prompted her to reevaluate her faith & she expressed a serious desire to have a spiritual home life. Which I am supportive of 100%. As I've said we've known each other for nearly a decade & cared for each other a lot. We've dated others during this time but figured since she was looking to move out here maybe we'd make a go at it. So when the religious thing came up I was open to it. In fact I discussed how I'd be willing to do so as I've been drifting back towards God (yeah my user name has become very ironic)myself. That said, she contacted me today & basically said sorry no thanks. I understand & support her choice, it will not effect my feelings for her nor my desire to be friends with her. That said it was a crushing blow. It hit me harder than I thought it would. I could go back & beg her to ignore what I wrote her & tell her I'll follow her spiritual lead but I'd be untrue to myself and how I'd want to not only express my spirituality but raise any children I may yet be blessed with. I do worry that though she said, this will not lead her to abandon our friendship & I concur - that history being what it is between us, that she'll use it as an excuse to distance herself even more from me. That said, I knew this was a potentiality, so even though I am deeply saddened over it - I won't let this crush my spirit. But darn, does it hurt right now. This is not how I wanted to start my day. This is extremely difficult. I am sorry to hear about this. |
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Post by xizallian on May 17, 2018 18:02:31 GMT -5
To all of you who are posting about their tough times, please keep doing so, and know that those of us who are reading support you, even if we don't post every time. Praying for times of refreshing for each of you.
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Post by simrion on May 26, 2018 8:21:40 GMT -5
Sharing for the levity. A few weeks back my DR. told me I should consult with insurance to see if they'd cover shingles vaccination for me as I'm 50 and a type 2 diabetic. I'm like yeah, okay. Of course she jinxed me, last week I developed shingles. Called her out on the jinx too! Worst of a mild case of shingles passes yay! Awoke yesterday 2:30am to "answer the call" of nature to experience the sudden and rather painful effect of a kidney stone breaking loose! So far hardly life threatening as many here might be suffering but now I can hardly wait to find out my next and third malady of the year. It comes in threes so the superstitious say. At least the pains meds are working. 👍 |
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Post by simrion on Jun 2, 2018 18:03:16 GMT -5
So my latest update...last Saturday the frequent and uncontrolled vomiting that accompanies a serious kidney stone kicked in. All day and through the night. Everything that went down (mostly water) came right back up. So Sunday prior to Memorial Day I had the Wife haul my old self off to the hospital where I learned the stone was 6mm, pretty firmly stuck and I had two options...stay and get pumped full of fluids in hopes the darn thing would come out or they could put a stent in to bypass and avoid kidney impairment. I opted for the stent which alleviated much of the suffering. I'll find out this coming Monday what options going forward might be. And here I was playing D&D to have an adventure ;-)
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Post by Keyone1234 on Jun 2, 2018 18:55:01 GMT -5
So my latest update...last Saturday the frequent and uncontrolled vomiting that accompanies a serious kidney stone kicked in. All day and through the night. Everything that went down (mostly water) came right back up. So Sunday prior to Memorial Day I had the Wife haul my old self off to the hospital where I learned the stone was 6mm, pretty firmly stuck and I had two options...stay and get pumped full of fluids in hopes the darn thing would come out or they could put a stent in to bypass and avoid kidney impairment. I opted for the stent which alleviated much of the suffering. I'll find out this coming Monday what options going forward might be. And here I was playing D&D to have an adventure ;-) WOW!! That is rough, here is sending you best wishes for good options to get rid of the kidney stone and for a good recovery. I have heard to pain is terrible. Sorry you are having to go through that. My dad had kidney stones and knock wood, I have not had any yet. He was told to give up a lot of foods which he didn't do and to drink a lot of fluid round the clock which he did do. He had three different bouts of them. Hang in there, we are wishing you the best. |
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Post by The Archivist on Jun 3, 2018 12:22:27 GMT -5
Wishing you the best simrion, good luck with this. |
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Post by Hexenritter Verlag on Jun 3, 2018 22:57:24 GMT -5
So my latest update...last Saturday the frequent and uncontrolled vomiting that accompanies a serious kidney stone kicked in. All day and through the night. Everything that went down (mostly water) came right back up. So Sunday prior to Memorial Day I had the Wife haul my old self off to the hospital where I learned the stone was 6mm, pretty firmly stuck and I had two options...stay and get pumped full of fluids in hopes the darn thing would come out or they could put a stent in to bypass and avoid kidney impairment. I opted for the stent which alleviated much of the suffering. I'll find out this coming Monday what options going forward might be. And here I was playing D&D to have an adventure ;-) Wishing you the best & quickness to feeling better soon. I had a kidney stone once, luckily it was small - but darn it was painful. |
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Post by Admin Pete on Jun 4, 2018 10:32:35 GMT -5
I also had a kidney stone about 18 years ago. I hyperventilated I was in such pain, they gave me morphine and it just barely took the edge off. The nurse told me that some women say that it is worse that childbirth, but she said she had three children by natural birth and three kidney stones and for her the kidney stones were quite a bit worse. I also have a hard time with dietary changes, I love all the stuff I am not supposed to eat. But the doctor told me to drink enough water to keep my urine very light colored and to drink enough that I would have to get up in the middle of the night. So far that has worked and I have cut back on some of the foods I'm not supposed to eat. I feel for you, those are very rough.
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Post by mormonyoyoman on Jun 4, 2018 13:31:51 GMT -5
Women have told me that also, mostly aunts, which caused me to envision a young lady cradling and feeding a kidney stone and it took me decades to get that image out of my head, but now it's back.
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Post by Jakob Grimm on Jun 4, 2018 15:08:23 GMT -5
Women have told me that also, mostly aunts, which caused me to envision a young lady cradling and feeding a kidney stone and it took me decades to get that image out of my head, but now it's back. Then don't think about carnivorous storks whatever you do.  |
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Post by Jakob Grimm on Jun 4, 2018 15:09:03 GMT -5
Hoping that you get a good and fast resolution of the kidney stone issue.
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Post by mormonyoyoman on Jun 4, 2018 15:18:56 GMT -5
Women have told me that also, mostly aunts, which caused me to envision a young lady cradling and feeding a kidney stone and it took me decades to get that image out of my head, but now it's back. Then don't think about carnivorous storks whatever you do. NOW you tell me. |
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Post by Jakob Grimm on Jun 4, 2018 15:25:33 GMT -5
Then don't think about carnivorous storks whatever you do. NOW you tell me. You are mostly welcome! |
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Post by simrion on Jun 5, 2018 5:12:57 GMT -5
I also had a kidney stone about 18 years ago. I hyperventilated I was in such pain, they gave me morphine and it just barely took the edge off. The nurse told me that some women say that it is worse that childbirth, but she said she had three children by natural birth and three kidney stones and for her the kidney stones were quite a bit worse. I also have a hard time with dietary changes, I love all the stuff I am not supposed to eat. But the doctor told me to drink enough water to keep my urine very light colored and to drink enough that I would have to get up in the middle of the night. So far that has worked and I have cut back on some of the foods I'm not supposed to eat. I feel for you, those are very rough. Right there with you. Had one about 18 years ago so knew right away when the pain kicked in. Apparently genetically prone and being diabetic doesn't help. I drink plenty of water and it appears I'll be drinking even more! Gotta get another CT scan to see if stone still there and sten removal in a few weeks. Fortunately no pain ATM. Dulauded and anti nausea meds were nice at the time ;-) |
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