Post by The Perilous Dreamer on Feb 2, 2019 0:04:42 GMT -5
Monday evening the 28th of January my wife Janet passed at about 8:30 PM. I had just leaned over and told her I was there with her and that I loved her, then she took a few more breaths and was gone. It was very quiet and she did not suffer. She declined rapidly the last 2-3 weeks and we moved her from home to the hospice center last Saturday afternoon. She went to sleep on Saturday evening and was never really conscious after that. The hospice people took excellent care of her and they had promised her that she would not have a lot of pain and she had almost none and only needed a little pain killer to keep that at bay.
It has taken me a while to type the above as I sit here sobbing. I do not know what I will do without her. The house just seems empty and cold now. Our dog keeps coming and crawling into my lap and demanding my attention and that is likely for the best. Last night we received 6 inches of snow and this morning my neighbors came over and cleaned the snow off of my car and shoveled the sidewalks and driveway for me.
The evening she passed, I called everyone that I needed to call before I left the hospice center and then I called on of my friends, he got up out of bed and met me at my home. He talked and prayed with me for an hour and a half or more. I have been going through pictures and I am hoping that the death certificate finally got signed today so that things can move along. I have a lot of support and help, but it is still very hard. I keep expecting to hear her voice.
Several of my family were up this past weekend to see her and her sister was up Sat and Sun (her sister is 13 years older.
Post by Emiya Ebonblade (Ebon da Mod) on Feb 2, 2019 1:09:17 GMT -5
I am sorry for your loss. I feel for you, losing a loved one is ever so hard. I can not fathom how losing your beloved soulmate could be. Losing my grandma 18 years ago of whom I took care of in her last few years devastated me & still chokes me up with regret when I think of her loss. You are in my thoughts & prayers TPD.
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I know that it must be devastating and you have my utmost sympathy and support should you need someone to talk with. I will certainly keep you in my prayers and hope that you will eventually come through this dark time. When I have lost friends and family, I have always tried to celebrate their life rather than mourn their passing. Grieving takes time, and you need to give yourself time to do so. However, your wife's suffering has ended and yours will abate over time as part of God's plan for each of us. Be strong, keep your faith, and don't be afraid to reach out.
PD I can only offer you my deepest sympathy and my support. I am so sorry that your wife passed at such a young age, but also grateful for the time you had together and that she did not suffer. Let us (me) know if there is anything we can do for you.
My wife's mother just passed recently (December) and, crap, even having lost my parents quite a while back, this always kicks the wind out of us.
Still keeping you both in my prayers.
captaincrumbcake, very sorry to here of your loss and I offer you my sympathy and support as well, please let us know if there is anything we can do for you. Yes, even if they live to be 100 it is still too soon when they are gone.
Post by The Perilous Dreamer on Feb 4, 2019 1:13:25 GMT -5
Thank you all for the encouragement, prayers and good wishes, it means a lot. I have a lot of support so I am doing as well as can be expected. But it is very rough. I hope to be able to post her obituary Monday Night. I still have a lot to do and am trying to scan pictures right now.
Post by The Perilous Dreamer on Feb 13, 2019 15:17:31 GMT -5
I would like to thank everyone for your support and condolences. We had a beautiful memorial for Janet on Saturday the 9th and it was very encouraging to see the outpouring of love and hear everyone sharing about how she touched their lives. This is a very difficult time for me and your encouragement is greatly appreciated.
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